Oh yes, you have shaped me first inside, then out; you formed me in my mother’s womb. I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration—what a creation! You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something. Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth; all the stages of my life were spread out before you. The days of my life all prepared before I’d even lived one day.
Psalm 139:13-16 MSG
I hope you all enjoy this cute picture of my beautiful Godbaby. She is a second chance for me and God’s gift to earth. When I think of this message of beauty, I am reminded of how beautiful she is and how she sees me. Enjoy.
All of my life, I always believed that I was ugly. That’s right. Me. When I share this with people, they are in awe.
“You’re so pretty.”
But no matter how many times you tell someone how attractive, how amazing, how talented, and how intelligent they are it’s up to the receiver to believe it to be true.
My whole life was surrounded by lies when it came to my beauty. I was bullied for a lot of things that I couldn’t control. For the glasses I wore, for my crooked teeth, for my hairstyles, for my clothing, for my weight, for my skin color, and the list goes on and on and on…
There was always something about me that people didn’t like, things about myself that I didn’t like, and eventually, this turned into hate. I hated myself. I hated what God had made. I was so depressed, sad, and angry when I looked in the mirror. I couldn’t believe that the same God who made people so beautiful was the same God that made me so…freaking…ugly.
So, lately (the last few months especially), these same feelings have come back. Every other day I’m reminding myself of how “ugly” I am. I get on social media and scroll endlessly at all the beautiful people and just think “Wow, how are they so pretty?” But today, I said to myself, “We’re not going to do this again. You…have got…to fight. (Ephesians 6:12).”
I searched on Youtube, How to Feel Pretty, to try and find videos that would inspire and encouraged my spirit. Two stood out to me the most Why You Think You’re Ugly, a TEDx Talk by Melissa Butler, and What Makes “The Ugliest Woman in the World” Feel Beautiful by Allure featuring Lizzie Velsaquez.
In the first video, Butler discusses how beauty trends and standards made her feel not beautiful and how we can identify “triggers that make us feel less than.” There is a trigger that the enemy will use on you to make you feel the way you do. A big trigger that he likes to use is media. Your mind uses images to make sense of the world, about yourself, and feelings surrounding the two. That is how God designed you. But what the enemy likes to do is play mind games. He will present images that don’t align with your design and make you feel less than. He will make you feel as if God made a mistake. He did the same thing with Adam and Eve! He said the minute they ate from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil, they would be like God (Genesis 3:5) but the gag was… they were already like God (Genesis 1:26-27). So, find those triggers that make you believe a lie. You are made in God’s image. He made you as a reflection of Himself. So you are not ugly, less than, powerless, inferior, unintelligent, or anything that is less than wonderfully made!
In the second video, Velasquez draws out two powerful points. One, you belong to someone that loves you just the way you are. Before you drew your first breath, God knew you, He formed you, He chose you, and He loved you. There’s nothing more true or powerful than that. He loved you someone so much that He sent a part of Himself to love you—Jesus. There are other parts of Himself that He sent to love you and that’s people. In a world where people are mean, evil, deceitful, and flat-out rude, God places people in our lives to love on us. It could be your mother or father, siblings, grandparents, cousins, aunt and uncles, or people outside of your family like friends, boyfriends and girlfriends, spouses, and even strangers. There are people that you haven’t even encountered yet that are going to love you just the way you are.
The second point is this: it’s the inside that truly counts. God says it Himself! He says that He doesn’t see things the way that people see them; mankind looks at the outside appearance but God looks at the heart (1 Samuel 16:7). The word heart means center. It means the inner core of who you are, your inner person, your spirit. That is the one part about you that most replicates God, if He dwells in you. Your heart is what matters most because everything you do flows from it (Proverbs 4:23). How you treat yourself, how you feel about yourself, how you see yourself all flows from your heart. If your heart is unclear, then your perspective will be also.
It’s time we change how we see and feel about ourselves. It’s time we change our hearts. A heart after God can do no wrong. A heart after God can see the beauty in anything because it acknowledges that all things are from Him, for Him, and to Him. This includes you and me.
So, if you find yourself feeling down about who you are…if you find yourself hating your reflection in the mirror…if you find yourself wishing that you were someone else…if you find yourself questioning why God made you the way He did…stop. Get to the root of what’s triggering those thoughts, take them captive, and then see what God has to say about you.
Believe the truth. He created us, we didn’t create ourselves, so there must be something about our bodies, our minds, and our souls that He adores and wants us to discover. Let’s find out what it is each and everyday.
Here’s the links to the two videos I discussed: